In everyone there is a wound, or more than one.
A wound is where the healing comes about;
Where the miracle of life shines more brilliantly
Through the plodding progress of growth.
Yes we grow.
But mere growth is not enough to overtake the accumulating callus of habit.
And yes, a wound can grow a callused scar as well, and often does.
But the scar remains more tender than those that come from work and wear.
The scar is just a reminder of the wound and how it brought healing
Before we closed over again, to await another wound, another leap ahead.
We may only learn from our mistakes.
We only heal from our wounds.
(Notes on Forgiveness)
The long and short of it is this:
Unless we rise above our injury, we are not in a place to forgive the ones who injured us.
A personal perspective on injury often comes when we have lived through the long-term results. Injury simply summons strengths that would be hard to achieve without it. Injury certainly can be crippling in specific ways. But the strengths we muster to be whole again would not be available to us if we had remained in the condition we experienced before the injury. It could be said that we needed this exact injury to become exactly who we have become.
Every injury can be seen as a very personal blessing.
When we examine the nature of injury in this way, disassociating it from the one who injured us, we begin to see that the person who injured us was, in part, an unintentional vehicle for the development of our unique soul. When this transformation takes place, we naturally forgive the person, and may even come to where we are grateful for the gift that originally bore the semblance of an injury.
We have risen to another level than that of the injury. We can see it now as part of our path to who we are.
Examining injury as a gift from outside of us, which is somehow very personal, opens the question of our deeper connections with the seemingly impersonal world. Rudolph Steiner, in his spiritual research, observed the phenomena of karma during the sequentially reincarnating human being. He describes how, upon living a life, each of us bear the responsibilities of our deeds. Deeds that do harm, create a personal disharmony with the greater universe. In its benevolence, the universe devises circumstances in a subsequent life that give us an opportunity to get re-attuned.
Some injuries are just those opportunities.
To the extent that we are indeed responsible for our actions, the injuries we cause are not just blessed ‘accidents’, wisely designed to raise strengths in others. They are also real perpetrations, which cause our victims to suffer. They create new disharmonies that we need to heal in ourselves and between us and the injured, over the course of subsequent lives.
After all, have we not all perpetrated some pain?
By looking inward, we can put ourselves in the ‘shoes’ of the one who injured us, and can see that we are no different in many respects.
This compassion is a major part of rising above our personal connection to our injury.
Compassion grows when we see that the perpetrator has a much more difficult path ahead to heal his self-inflicted disharmony, than we have to recover our own wholeness.
Forgiveness is a greatness of soul that either arises graciously in time, as we move beyond the injury, or is cultivated through conscious personal effort. In any case it has the effect of re-attuning us with the perpetrator. It also promotes his redemption.
We are here, after all, to love one another.
Seeing the loving ardor of the spiritual worlds acting in our best interest, is Revelation.
Seeing another person as the special envoy of spiritual impulses, is Love.
Seeing the other as a fellow traveler, navigating through the same spiritual seas, is humanity.
Forgiveness contains all this.